The Wheel of Power and Control

[Snowy Owl]

The Wheel of Power and Control

Using intimidation: making her afraid by using looks, actions, gestures, smashing things, destroying her property, abusing pets, displaying weapons.

Using emotional abuse: putting her down, making her feel bad about herself, calling her names, making her think she's crazy, playing mind games, humiliating her, making her feel guilty.

Using isolation: controlling what she does, who she sees and talks to, what she reads, where she goes, limiting her outside involvement, using jealousy to justify actions.

Minimizing, denying, and blaming: making light of the abuse and not taking her concerns about it seriously, saying the abuse didn't happen, shifting responsibility for abusive behavior, saying she caused it.

Using children: making her feel guilty about the children, using the children to relay messages, using visitation to harass her, threatening to take children away.

Using male privilege: treating her like a servant, making all the big decisions, acting like the "master of the castle", being the one to define men's and women's roles.

Using economic abuse: preventing her from getting or keeping a job, making her ask for money, giving her an allowance, taking her money, not letting her know about or have access to family income.

Using coercion and threats: making and/or carrying out threats to hurt her, threatening to leave her, to commit suicide, to report her to welfare, making her drop charges, making her do illegal things.


This information is from the Duluth, Minnesota Domestic Violence Program.Front Page
DV Information/ Native American/ Legal Advocacy/ General Information

• What is Abuse?
• Why Women Stay
• Range of Behavior of Domestic Violence Survivors
• Types of Domestic Abuse
• Domestic Violence Safety Plan for Stalking
• Facts About Violence Against Mid-Life & Older Women
• Warning Signs
• Myths
• MN DV Statistics
• US DV Statistics
• The Effect on Children
• Characteristics & Talking To Men Who Batter
• The Power and Control Wheel
• Are You In Danger Quiz?
• Personal Safety With An Abuser
• General Guidelines for Leaving an Abusive Relationship
• Getting Ready to Leave
• Emergency Checklist
• After Leaving the Abusive Relationship
• Problems of Rural Battered Women
• Psychological Stages of Battered Woman Syndrome
• 12 Ways To Tell if He Will Batter
• Alcohol Abuse and Domestic Violence

http://www.letswrap.com/dvinfo/wheel.htm

 

[Thornton]

Re: The Wheel of Power and Control

So
Thanks. Good resource. Event though October was promoted as Domestic Violence Awareness Month (USA) it is always time for peace.
See also the the web resources at the Family Violence Prevention Fund site.
http://www.endabuse.org/resources/facts/
http://www.endabuse.org/resources/gethelp/